Formal Introduction/ Maybe I'm not the committing type.....

It would be completely and utterly rude of me not to welcome you to jump off of SEX N DC so officially from me to you......WELCOME!







Me? who am I? I am Jade, one of a few pen names you'll find here. There a few of us that will be giving you the joy and pain of the sexy life in DC. The Pen names you'll mainly see are Jade, me of course, Divine, a trip, and Evon, crazy crazy lol. But you are sure to learn our personalities through our time together. And every once in a while we might add guest to the mix. The goal is to bring you the truth in all media forms, written, video, music, pictures, whatever we can do!





Now that formal introductions have been handled, on to the issue at hand. Now the first blog topic was debatable with all the good the bad the ugly in the world and especially our world!



However, I was recently presented with a topic, or shall I say it dropped into my lap. What do you know about "The List"? Until this time, I was unaware of "The list". I suppose I knew it existed for some, but I considered that some to be of the female majority inclusive of a select few males. What list am I referring to? The prospective marriage list. Keep in mind that a majority of my peers are early to mid twenty's and currently in college .



I was surprised to discover that I was on the list of a buddy of mine who I've always considered to be the typical drunk, mingling college male. Living his youth, and exploring his options Wednesday through Sunday. So to know that he had a list of those he considered marriage material, and the fact that I was on it, considering our strictly intimate relationship shocked me. I became curious and began to inquire about the composition of this list seeing as how I'd never presented to him any of the qualities, or shall I say assets I believe men look for in a wife. He told me that initially, all females he meets are on the list, and based on the course of events, conversations, and actions, they get dropped. So I asked how I, a strictly booty buddy was able to maintain my status on the list after 6 months. He simply told me that I had a sophisticated image in the streets, freak in the sheets deal about me and that I could carry on an intelligent conversation. Thinking to myself, I said that we are in college and that there are thousands of females that meet that qualification. He told me that I'd be surprised how many didn't and that just because we are in college doesn't make everyone smart because a majority of the females were dumb as door knobs.



Hearing this made me want to inquire about "The List" with a few other guys I knew. They all gave me the typical replies: A lady in the streets, freak in the sheets, well versed, able to cook and clean, committed woman. While I wasn't surprised by the actual qualifications of the list, I was surprised that males I'd considered the eternal bachelors to even have them. "The list" was something I'd always associated to females. I can't personally say that I have a list or even could conceptualize putting together one at this point in my life, but I know females who have pieced together every detail from the groom to the wedding colors, guest list, and ring carats.



I consider myself a realist, and to say that I don't want the happy ending would be a lie, but I wouldn't say i'd count out the eternal bachelorette just yet. Which brings me full circle.....





Have you ever considered that maybe you aren't the committing type?





Now I must admit that the thought has crossed my mind several times before that I could be that one. Could you be that one. Feedback....feedback!